They simply „do“ the emotion the situation calls for instead of showing what they really feel. Threes are much better at masking their feelings, since they simply detach from them in order to stay productive and likeable. You’ll most likely notice it pretty quickly when a Teacher is annoyed. Ones try to suppress their anger or disappointment, but they are not that good at actually concealing it.
One other major way to discern between Ones and Threes is to look at the way they show their negative feelings. As a result, they are more flexible than Ones, who like it more to stick to established procedures. They care less about standards and more about getting the job done in a way that looks good and ideally makes them shine in the process. Threes are the opposite of idealists – they’re pragmatists.
They want to reach a goal because that’s the standard that needs to be achieved. Their efficiency comes from the need to do things right. So let’s look at their deeper motivations. If you have them as colleagues, you might be forgiven to confuse the two. If you look at these two types from the outside, they can look remarkably similar: Both are usually highly efficient, well-organized, task-oriented and seem to always strive to be the best. Simpson.Ones and Threes are prime examples of why looking at behavior alone rarely tells you someone’s true type. Key Motivations: Want to be affirmed, to distinguish themselves from others, to have attention, to be admired, and to impress others.Įxamples: Bill Clinton, Oprah Winfrey, Jane Pauley, Michael Landon, Tony Robbins, Tom Cruise, Barbra Streisand, Sharon Stone, Madonna, Shirley MacLaine, Sting, Paul McCartney, Dick Clark, Whitney Houston, Ted Danson, Micheal Jordan, Shania Twain, Sylvester Stallone, Arnold Schwarznegger, Billy Dee Williams, Kathy Lee Gifford, Truman Capote, and O.J. Relentless, obsessive about destroying whatever reminds them of their own shortcomings and failures. Delusionally jealous of others / Become vindictive, attempting to ruin others' happiness. Untrustworthy, maliciously betraying or sabotaging people to triumph over them. Devious and deceptive so that their mistakes and wrongdoings will not be exposed. Unhealthy: Fearing failure and humiliation, they can be exploitative and opportunistic, covetous of the success of others, and willing to do "whatever it takes" to preserve the illusion of their superiority. Exhibitionistic and seductive, as if saying "Look at me!" Arrogance and contempt for others is a defense against feeling jealous of others and their success. Narcissistic, with grandiose, inflated notions about themselves and their talents. Want to impress others with their superiority: constantly promoting themselves, making themselves sound better than they really are. Problems with intimacy, credibility, and "phoniness" emerge. Pragmatic and efficient, but also premeditated, losing touch with their own feelings beneath a smooth facade. Begin to package themselves according to the expectations of others and what they need to do to be successful. Become careerists, social climbers, invested in exclusivity and being the "best." / Become image-conscious, highly concerned with how they are perceived. Compare self with others in search for status and success.
Gentle and benevolent.Īverage: Highly concerned with their performance, doing their job well, constantly driving self to achieve goals as if self-worth depends on it. Modest and charitable, self-deprecatory humor and a fullness of heart emerge. Highly effective: others are motivated to be like them in some positive way.Īt Their Best: Self-accepting, inner-directed, and authentic, everything they seem to be. Ambitious to improve themselves, to be "the best they can be" - often become outstanding, a human ideal, embodying widely admired cultural qualities. Adaptable, desirable, charming, and gracious. Healthy: Self-assured, energetic, and competent with high self-esteem: they believe in themselves and their own value. Adaptable, Excelling, Driven, and Image-Consciousīasic Desire: To feel valuable and worthwhileĮnneagram Three with a Two-Wing: "The Charmer"Įnneagram Three with a Four-Wing: "The Professional"
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